I now understand why we talk past each other on so many things.
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All issues worth debating have layers in them. Which layer one chooses to look at frames one's narrative.
There is the human layer. Nothing more personal than raw human emotion.
There is the institutional layer. Nothing more practical than policy prescriptions.
There is the ideas layer. Nothing more inspiring than the force of ideas.
We talk past each other because we talk in different layers.
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I've often made larger points using stories of humble people.
Personalizing any issue makes it hard for empathetic people to turn away. The stories of the tortured and the exiled of Kashmir are precisely that. Or those of Indians charred to death in their own homes, by their neighbors in Gujarat. Or the human-level horrors in Punjab, Chhattisgarh, Jaffna, Iraq, Afghanistan, Balochistan, Dharavi, Rwanda, and all manner of other places.
Suffering lives where humans dwell. Their stories tell themselves, often ending without closure.
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Then, there are failing Governments, amoral Corporations, and communal identities to talk about.
Talking at this layer moves the conversation away from personal horrors to policy debates. These stories are about institutional interests, goals, capabilities, actions, conflicts, successes, and failures. They lend themselves to analysis and prescription. It feels great to lay out options, debate pros and cons, and make recommendations - even if nothing is ever done about what one suggests. Kashmir, for example, becomes a discussion of Center vs State, Army and AFSPA, Pakistan and jihadis, NHPC and CRPF, etc etc etc
Institutions are actionable. Their stories are mostly academic, but satisfy like comfort food.
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Finally, there is the realm of ideas.
Here, we abstract far away from the suffering people or their failing institutions. Our focus is on the eternal story of right versus wrong. There are larger patterns in the ebb and flow of history. These allow us to see the world beyond our own humble existence. Here, Kashmir is not a heaven on earth or hell on people but a battle of big ideas like faith and identity and freedom and modern nationhood.
Ideas are where history is made. Their stories are grand because this is how humans become gods.
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We talk past each other because we talk in different layers.
Those without authority talk at the human-layer. Those with authority talk at the institutional-layer. The dispassionate talk at the ideas-layer.
For example, I do not like Narendra Modi and his government in Gujarat. My arguments are almost always about human suffering and failure - Zakia Jafri and Sanjiv Bhatt and Mayaben Kodnani and Narendra Modi. His supporters talk about institutional success. Look at Gujarat, look at its governance, look we have data and upward pointing GDP charts. We end up talking past each other.
Happens in every situation. I can write the foregoing paragraph for Kashmir or Salman Rushdie without any effort.
The arguments are all fine - it's just that we aren't engaging at the same layer. Parallel polemics don't a debate make.
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In my humble view, we should really talk at the layer of ideas. That's what history remembers.
There was a lot of human suffering and institutional failure in Ashoka slaughtering Kalinga. Today, his Chakra is India's national emblem. Not to diminish anyone' suffering, but we don't remember the names of those who died at his sword. We remember his embrace of Buddhism as a consequence. In the end, this big idea is all that mattered.
I believe that some ideas are better than others and, in time, they always prevail.
In my eyes, there are no better political ideas than secular democracy and free markets. All other ideas have had their moment in the sun, and they have always come up short. Always.
Regardless of how I feel at the human and institutional levels, ultimately the only question that really matters for me is this:
Will my argument advance secular democracy and free markets or set these winning ideas back?
You don't have to agree with the ideas I favor but surely you can see this is an extremely clarifying way to think. It cuts through the heart-rending emotion of human suffering and the never-ending boasts of human institutions. It makes the complex simple.
I think we can make great headway if we all talked at this level.